September 21, 2018
WYC 156 – Girls Lacrosse – Dave Briglio – Say Less & Ask More
My direct sports coaching experience range from 2-10th grade for the past 10-yrs, but I also intersect with the varsity players while I’m working w JV (girls lacrosse). But my day job (consulting Engineer) is what led me to learning to coach adults on the job, and see how similar the process is between 8-18 yr olds and 22-62 yr olds…different nuances, but it all comes from the same place: connections, compassion and creating community. And it doesn’t have to be all rainbows and unicorns; but it certainly takes a lot more than “managing” and “instructing” with a firm attitude.
My big interest is seeing how critical youth/HS sports are in helping the next generation grow into the best people they can be. And I tell stories about my time as an athlete, mentors I’ve found after college, my family history (Dad created a company/vocation with a HS diploma and a work ethic futures through sports), and the young people I “serve” as their “Chief” Engineer.
And I now use these stories to help PARENTS see how to have less worry and find more joy in their kids’ sports/school.
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Show Notes – WYC 156 – Dave Briglio
Coaching your own kids
- In an ideal world you can have non-parent coaches, but often there aren’t enough coaches so you have to step up to help the program
- The key is to be open and honest and communicate with your own kid and the other kids about being a parent coach
- Guided Discovery – It is more effective to let the kids figure it out on their own vs you just telling the kids how to do it
- Start with a basic drill, and as they develop expertise in that skill, you add a twist to the drill to add complexity
Letting the players own the game
- The players can’t hear you – so barking orders during the game is very inneffective and frustrating
- Send in instructions with the next group/line. Coach them vs. yelling at the players on the field.
Achieving Peak performance mentally
- Praise the effort over achievement
- Fear is a very short-term motivation. A feeling of security and that someone believes in you is best way to increase kids’ confidence.
- Figure out what you want to celebrate – and do it a bunch, in practice and in games. Real-time (otherwise it feels like false praise if you do it later.)
- Some of the best praise is when you are doing it ‘behind their back’ – when you are praising someone who is not there at the time.
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
- Confidence is what you visibly display. But esteem is what you truly believe about yourself.
- The Leadership Servitude
- The Way of the Champion by Dr. Jerry Lynch
- The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stangier
- Play with them – Jump in and practice with them
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