WYC 138 – Leadership – John Moyer talks Overfunctioning Leadership

Every system(or team) desires 5 things: SCARF

• Status
• Certainty – This takes time for a newer coach.
• Autonomy
• Relatedness
• Fairness

Good places to start

• Read books
• Attend conferences, talk to other coaches

Critical thinking in the stress of a game

• If you have established your guiding principles, it greatly increases your ability to calmly think through and stay focused on what’s important

Overfunctioning=Underfunctioning

• When one overfunctions, there is a reciprocal reaction of underfunctioning
• The best balance for a coach is to be there to be a calm presence in a storm, but not overreact to negative situations that will occur in every game

A child-focused society

• If a parent over-focuses on their children, the child is worse off
• As a coach- do your coaching well, but think less about it.
• Game theory – There is a fear our kid/team will get behind if someone else practices more or plays on more travel teams.
• A 2 person relationship is inherently unstable. For parents – it is far easier for them to talk about their kids than it it is to talk about their own relationship.

Connecting with and impacting kids

• John works with kids to help them start establishing who they are and identifying their self

The One that Got Away

• In John’s senior year, he played against a tackle that went on to be an all-pro center. John got worked over pretty bad by this guy, but he learned resilience and knew to focus on process over outcome.

Best borrowed/stolen idea

• Relentlessly eradicate hurry from your life

Favorite books/quotes

• Book: A Failure of Nerve by Rabbi Ed Friedman
• Book: Resilient Leadership by Bob Duggan and Jim Moyer

Parting Advice

• Smile a lot.
• Be organized.