May 20, 2016
Achieving Peak Mental Performance – Factor #6: Stop Telling Players ‘It’s just a game’
‘What happens if I mess this up and I lose future opportunities to do this thing I love?’
- For pre-game nerves: Don’t deny it or try to squelch it! Embrace it – be excited that you are having pre-game excitement. It means that this is important to you. Your body is responding to make you as sharp as possible by waking up all of these feelings and nerves, and you can tap into that strength. – Coach Kevin Kennedy
- Lighten the mood:
- One method is a trigger mechanism – something you have practiced and evaluated what works with each individual – something to get the player to smile. Maybe it’s slapping your leg. Maybe it’s a teammate saying ‘Spongebob is ugly’, etc. – Coach Robert Taylor
- The Knute Rockne-type speeches by a coach often take the fun out of the game and cause the kids to tighten up – just let them go play and have fun – Coach John Doss
- Be relaxed as a coach – Avoid phrases like ‘Try harder’ or ‘Run faster’ – these commands often tighten up a player’s muscles and stiffens them instead of loosening them up – Coach Jason Larocque
- Make sure they know your approval of them is not tied to results but rather effort. ‘In youth sports you cannot play with a piano on your back’ – Kids can’t play with coaches hounding them about mistakes and taking away their confidence. – Coach/Author Michael Langlois
- The game/performance is just your showcase to have fun and shows off the hard work you have been putting in – Band Director Cameron Gish
- Try to get the athlete to see the small picture – don’t get overwhelmed by thinking of the big picture – ask the athlete to think of a small victory they can picture – Coach Stacie Mahoe
- Change the focus off themselves – It’s not about you – Show up to play for your teammates – Coach Ken Stuursma and Coach Creed Larrucea
Player: I don’t know if I can do this, what if I go 0 for 4?Coach: Let’s forget about those next 3 at-bats, just focus on this one. Can you picture yourself driving the ball up the middle?Player: I don’t know. I’m so nervous I don’t think I can even swing the bat. What if I strike out looking without even swinging?Coach: How about this: can you picture yourself taking an ugly hack at just one pitch this at bat? I mean a way uglier swing than those funny videos you girls were watching yesterday on your phone. Even if you totally miss the ball, do you think you can just get the bat off your shoulders and take a hack?Player (snickering a little because she’s picturing a really ugly swing): I guess I could do that. Why would I want to take an ugly swing?Coach: Well, good point. I’ve seen your swing and it’s so natural and fun to watch. So let’s get one really good swing in this at bat and go from there.